Lesson #1 Of being a Stay at Home Mom

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Well my first lesson as being a stay at home mom is to pace yourself! I treated yesterday like it was my day off. So I felt like it was my only day to get things done. I tried to clean my entire placei, it's not big so it's doesn't take a lot of time. I also detailed the truck and washed it to make sure it was nice and clean for my husband. He stresses when any of the vehicles are pretty dirty, he feels like we're neglecting them (hahaha). Then on top of it I added laundry and all I wanted was to take a nap.

Little did I know that was asking way too much! My husband was pretty much in his own world the whole day and Scout was taking naps at the worst times so I could never lay down and take a nap at the same time. By the time 8:00pm hit I was so tired that I wanted nothing more but to put my little guy to bed and enjoy some quiet alone time. That didn't happen of course, I ended up screwing up dinner and staying up trying to finish the laundry. Once my husband was asleep I finally had some quiet time. I swear I took advantage of it! I ended up taking a nice relaxing bubble bath and I enjoyed a few drinkings, that definitely helped me calm down and realize that for my next day I needed to take it easy and pace myself. I don't have only one day to finish everything I have an entire week. Today has been much better, I've just chilled the entire day and still had time to accomplish things around the house without feeling rushed, it's a pretty awesome experience so far! I hope the rest of this week will be better.

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My first act as a Stay at Home Mom!

So in light of me quitting my job and me becoming a stay at home mother I decided that yesterday was the best day to get my newest tattoo. I did a lot of research for it and tried to find something very special and meaningful to me that would represent how I felt about being a mom. I found this awesome heart and modified it to look like the one I actually got but...this is a symbol of a "Mother's Love" I saw it and knew that it was perfect for what I wanted. I love being blessed to be a mom although it's frustrating at times it's so rewarding and I feel so loved that I wanted to show off my feelings with my new tattoo. So far I am loving it! It catches me off guard becuase this is my first tattoo in a spot where it's visible all the time so it's strange seeing it all the time but I kind of like that too. It allows me to admire it. I won't lie the outline of this hurt pretty bad but then again all outlines for tattoos hurt no matter where you're getting it done. The guy was done though in 20 mins so the pain wasn't too bad. I'm so happy I finally got this tattoo I've been drawing it for a while now and debating on whether or not I wanted to spend the money on it and yesterday I was finally able to do it with 100% confidence that this is what I wanted.

I love getting tattoo's on special occasions and this is definitley one of them. I will forever be able to look at this tattoo and remember the special moment's Scout and I have on a daily basis and how liberating and exciting it is to know that I get to stay at home and be there for him. I hope this tattoo will also help me during those moments of frustration to appreciate this opportunity I'm taking to stay at home with my baby because I just have to remember how sad I was when I did have to shut that door behind me and be out of the house for 8+ hours. Somedays it felt like a lifetime. I'm thrilled to have this daily reminder of my son and my wonderful gift that I get to enjoy him being so little.

Last Day Being a "Working" Mom

So today marks my last day at work. As of 5:00pm I will officially be for the first time a stay at home mom. I won't lie I'm pretty nervous about this next step but also very excited for the new challenge that lies ahead.

As I take this last day to finish up and complete all my loose ends here on the job I can't help but reflect on how great of a place this has been to work for. God truly blessed me and helped me go in the right direction to meet certain people in order for me to get this great job. Despite my recent frustration I still enjoy this company and I enjoy everyone I work with. I will be sad to leave a company that I know does so much good for the community and for their students. I hope that if I do decide to start working again in the future a position will be open so I can continue my journey with this company.

I also can't help but think of everyone's reaction when I've told them I get to be a stay at home mom. Some people's reactions where of happiness and excitment. While others scared the crap of me and actually have made me think twice about this decision because as soon as I utter the words stay at home mom, I get, "you're crazy, it's so hard, I'd rather be working anyday." Wow! Really??? Why so negative? So many women would love to trade you places. I always get this strong urge to tell those women that they need to appreciate the time they have with their children because eventually they won't want to spend any time with you and you'll be so sad and probably even crying about the fact that you didn't appreciate the time you did get to spend with them.

Besides is it really that bad being a stay at home mom? I don't think I'm going to feel that way at all, because I am going into this with a completely different perspective, an appreciative perspective. I know it will be hard at times but I also know that I get to be the one to teach my son new things and I get to be there when he takes his first steps or crawls for the first time, and I get to be there to comfort him when he falls down or gets scared, not some lady I barely know. I'm so grateful for this opportunity that it makes me sad that more women aren't appreciative of the rare chance that they get to be home with thier families. I hope I can keep this positive mentality through the hard times, for example as he's screaming his head off throwing a temper-tantrum in the middle of the grocery store...but I guess only time will tell.

I think I'm ready for it, all I can do at this point is take a deep breath and move forward with a good attitude. Knowing God will yet again lead me in the right direction.

My word of advice for today is, "Change is the only thing consistent in our lives." (unkown) So my challenge to myself and to everyone else is to accept change as a good thing and see where it takes you in life. What lessons can be learned and who we might meet. Enjoy the journey!